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INFJ’s, otherwise known as “Advocates,” by MBTI terms, are a rare and complicated species. They’re easily misunderstood because of their contradictory characteristics and their mysterious and private nature. I’ve assembled a list of carefully chosen memes that I believe describe what it’s like to be an INFJ.
Of course, everybody is unique and different but I’m grateful to know that at least less than 1% (according to 16personalities.com) of the population shares some of the different and unique personality traits and feelings that I experience. It makes feel a little less alone, even though I don’t mind being alone anyways.
1. Advocates yearn for depth, authenticity, and sincerity in their relationships.
They seek out people who “share their passions, interests, and idealogies, people with whom they can explore philosophies and subjects that they believe are truly meaningful.”
2. They have a knack for knowing when they’re being manipulated.
They can spot dishonest and disingenuous motives easily. They see past sales tactics and will not put up with being manipulated and lied to.
3. They are often seen as private and mysterious.
They don’t open us easily. They usually have a breaking moment when they finally allow themselves to be seen fully by someone else- with all of their quirkiness, deep thoughts, and goofiness. This only happens once they know they can trust someone and are comfortable enough around someone to do so.
4. Advocates are extremely passionate about their principles and values.
Someone is “likely to receive an alarmingly strong response,” if they challenge or criticize the INFJ or their beliefs. Although introverted a lot of the time, Advocates will speak up for what they’re passionate about. When it comes to what they feel strongly about, they don’t mind rocking the boat a little.
Oh, and another important thing to remember about INFJ’s…
5. Advocates are passionate about thinking for themselves.
They won’t conform to any expectations or social norms if they go against their core values. Their main goal as parents is to help their children become strong and independent adults who know how to think, not what to think.
6. They need time alone.
Though they’re often mistaken as extroverts, especially by those they’re closest to, they are, in fact, introverts. They love spending time with their loved ones, but it’s important for others to remember that Advocates need time alone to recharge. Don’t take it personally if they suddenly withdraw or disappear for long amounts of time. They do not mean to hurt anyone or to burn any bridges but sometimes they end up doing so because of how withdrawn and introverted they can become.
Oh, and they’re the kings/queens of excuses… (because they don’t want to hurt your feelings by just saying “no.”)
7. While Advocates love sticking to routines, they often feel a strong desire to escape and get away from it all.
As responsible as INFJ’s usually are, they can be equally irresponsible when they’re extremely overwhelmed.
8. They are very sensitive and will do everything they can to avoid criticism.
They often come off as people pleasers, especially to people they aren’t yet comfortable with and who they’re afraid of speaking their minds to.
9. Advocates often feel that they are most themselves and most alive when they’re by themselves or with people who they are very close to.
They enjoy being alone and hardly ever get bored. When they do form a romantic relationship their relationships have a lot of depth and the connection is strong but sometimes they need their space to do things alone or to feel as though they’re “alone” while still in the same room as their significant other.
And remember… there’s a lot more to an INFJ than meets the eye (or surface level friendship).
10. They are often misunderstood.
Their characteristics can be very contradictory. They’re very sweet, yet very tough. They’re extremely serious, but they’re also super silly. They’re very emotional and very logical. All at the same time! It can be very confusing to understand, even for the INFJ, but they eventually come to terms with their “oddness.”
11. They are the masters of overthinking.
About everything. There’s no such thing as “simple” for the INFJ. Some might call it obsessive, but to put a positive spin on it- it’s really just depth. INFJ’s are deep and anything but surface level.
And at times…. they may overreact. Just a little.
12. Advocates feel a strong sense of love for their loved ones and for the less fortunate, the hurting, the lonely, etc.
The amount of feelings they have can sometimes feel unbearable. They often place high value on defending the helpless, fighting for equality, and striving to “change the world,” as much as they can.
13. Most advocates will do everything they can to avoid talking on the phone.
They’d rather see you in person where they can take in your body language or communicate through written words (i.e text, email, etc.). INFJ’s tend to be able to express themselves better in writing, so a phone call where they’re unable to see body language OR communicate as effectively as they can in writing is often anxiety-inducing for the INFJ. Their introverted nature also plays a part in this.
14. Advocates like planned spontaneity.
Completely contradictory yet it makes perfect sense to the INFJ. They want to travel the world and go on exciting adventures but they appreciate at least a little structure here and there.
15. Advocates can become easily overstimulated by sensory details. If too much is going on at once, it can cause the INFJ to shut down.
You might be an INFJ if you’ve asked people to be quiet for a little while so you can think or if you feel the need to crawl under your covers and relieve yourself from all of the outside stimulation.
16. They are very are idealistic.
They often expect perfection from themselves, from others, and from their surroundings. They want life to be perfect and can feel disappointed when things or people aren’t living up to their expectations. INFJ’s need to remember to be less critical of others, to stop beating themselves up, and to try to live more in the present.
17. Even though they’re opinionated and stubborn, they’re often major people-pleasers.
Contradictory? Yes. But what isn’t contradictory about the INFJ?
18. INFJ’s probably love the MBTI test more than any other type.
Because we’re often confused by our own selves and unsure of how we’re perceived, the MBTI gives us comfort. We love having other people take the test so that we can understand them better. And we want them to experience the same comfort we’ve experienced when taking it.
19. INFJ’s tend to act differently in different situations, depending on their comfort levels.
They’re not trying to be “fake,” or “manipulative.” They just simply can’t be their complete selves until they’re comfortable with someone or a group of people. They’re also known to be social chameleons, who can fit in with any group of people. They’re able to relate and understand people who are different from themselves, which makes it easy for them to connect- although other people (and even themselves) may wonder why they’re acting differently depending on who they’re around.
20. Once an INFJ becomes passionate about something, they may become… well, a little obsessed.
INFJ’s are either not interested at all in something or completely obsessed. There’s no middle ground.
21. They worry A LOT about hurting other people’s feelings.
INFJ’s will remember the smallest thing they said YEARS ago and become overcome with guilt, regret, and worry that the person they said the trivial thing to had their feelings hurt.
22. INFJ’s aren’t always the best at verbalizing their thoughts.
Their thoughts are usually more clear and composed when written out.
23. INFJ’s are REALLY nice… until they’re not.
Ever heard of the INFJ Door Slam? Well, it’s a real thing. And so is an INFJ sticking up for themselves if you walk all over them. They’ll probably let you walk all over them for a while (because they’re people pleasers). But once they hit a certain point, you better watch out!
24. INFJ’s are rarely bored alone but may get bored when they’re around people.
An INFJ can keep themselves completely occupied and devoid of boredom for hours on end, but stick them in a room with a bunch of people who like small talk and they’ll most likely be bored out of their minds (unless they can find a nice seat on the sidelines to people watch from).
Why would we be bored when there’s so much to do?
25. Because INFJ’s yearn for deep connection, they’ll often make plans with people that they later regret.
INFJ’s love being alone, but still highly regard deep connections with the people they care about. It can feel confusing to an INFJ who wants to connect but doesn’t always feel capable of all of the energy connecting takes.
26. INFJ’s could spend hours (or ya know… days, weeks, months) doing something they’re passionate about.
And they don’t like to be disturbed once they’ve started.