Isn’t it “funny” that we’re all here on this earth with vastly different personalities, expected to not only understand our complex selves but also understand others? What I find most ironic of all is that even though we know we should be understanding and empathetic human beings, we tend to treat people as if they’re all the same.

We’ve all heard the infamous rant that starts with, “I just can’t believe she’d do that. I don’t understand her AT ALL.”

Hmmm… maybe it’s because people are different, with different ways of thinking, behaving, processing emotions, and not to mention everyone has had wildly different upbringings and experiences. Maybe that’s why you don’t “understand her AT ALL.”

(P.S. I say that kind of stuff too. I’m not saying I’m a perfect little angel.)

We’re Individual People, Not Clones

The reason a lot of relationships fall apart or are hanging by a string is that we expect people to think and act exactly as we would. And that’s just not how people work. And it doesn’t just happen in relationships. It happens in schools, churches, governments, etc. People are lumped together, expected to learn, behave, react, need, and desire the same exact things.

The list of social norms that completely neglect different personality types and learning styles could go on forever. This begs to question… where did we go wrong? How are we in the 20th century and we still haven’t figured out that every stinkin’ person is SO different? And that to lump them together and expect them to act and react similarly based on gender, age, or any other external logistics just isn’t going to work?

That’s exactly why personality tests aren’t just “fun” little tests that you can take if you want to. They’re actually necessary for understanding ourselves and others! Personality tests give us insights into our personalities that we would otherwise be unaware of- simply because it’s hard to see all of our own strengths and weaknesses.

We can’t expect others to understand us if we don’t even understand ourselves. And we can’t understand others fully if we don’t get that more in-depth understanding of their personality- the stuff that’s deep under the surface.

Other Benefits of Personality Tests

  • They help you identify your strengths and weaknesses so that you can accept yourself for who are and improve aspects of yourself that you feel would help benefit your life.
  • They help you feel understood in ways you probably haven’t felt understood before. It’s nice to know that other people behave and think in similar ways as you. And that there’s at least a test that “gets you.”
  • You’ll be able to better understand others so that you can have deeper, more meaningful relationships.
  • You’ll be able to gain more empathy for those around you. When someone upset you, you’ll be able to recognize that their brain works differently than yours. You’ll understand where they’re coming from, even if you don’t agree with the way they’re behaving (and even if they should probably improve some things about themselves).
  • They can help you know what career would be most beneficial for you. You might think that something will make you happy (and you might be right), but these tests can give you insights into careers that you might not have considered yet.
  • It’s good to know yourself so that you’re able to know what you want and need in life. Knowing yourself in depth also boosts your confidence and makes you feel more emotionally stable and self-aware.
  • You’re able to contemplate and acknowledge your weaknesses while taking personality tests- ones you might not usually think about or even be aware of.

My Results on 6 Other Popular Personality Tests (+ My Thoughts On Them)

I’m a loyal supporter of the 16 Personalities Test. The 16 Personalities test is a branch off of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator that’s adapted to current psychological evidence. And it’s fantastic. Being the introspective INFJ that I am, I’ve taken dozens upon dozens of personality tests. None have been able to quite nail my personality like the 16 Personalities test does!

But, there are some that I’ve heard come close. Today, I’ll be taking other popular personality tests and giving you the inside scoop on my thoughts about the different tests. I’ll also be sharing my results. I’ve gotten “INFJ” as my result on the 16 Personalities test every single time I’ve taken it, so if you’re an INFJ too, it’ll be to see how our results compare on these other tests!

Are you ready for this?! Here they are!

(P.S These are all the free versions of the test, but some do require creating a free account.)

1. The Enneagram Test (With Instinctual Variant Results)

I can’t claim to know a whole lot about this test, but people seem to really like it. A lot claim to like it better than other tests because while there are only 9 core personality types, the test is very detailed and lets you know which numbers you’ll migrate to when you’re under stress/pressure. It’s probably the second most popular personality test, after the Myers-Briggs. After taking the test, I can attest to the results being prettya ccurate. I’m a Type 4, the Individualist. Interestingly, I just looked up which Enneagram type most INFJ’s are, and Type 4 was most common.


While parts of the results are accurate, I feel like the Myers Briggs gives a more complete depiction of me. The Enneagram states that I’m, “the sensitive, introspective type,” who is “expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.” While I think some of that’s true (and some of it used to be truer than it is now- especially the temperamental and self-absorbed part), the test completely neglected to recognize the parts of myself that are kind, loving, and altruistic. The Myers Briggs does a better job of capturing both aspects of me- the bad and good- while the Enneagram seems to focus almost solely on the negative.

The 16 Personalities test lifts me up and makes me feel like I can do something to make a difference in the world while the Enneagram has left me feeling like a selfish, emotional wreck. While it’s good to acknowledge my weaknesses, this test has left me feeling as though my weaknesses almost entirely make up who I am. I didn’t hate it, though! I think this test could be comparable in quality to the 16 Personalities, but it’s just not as fun or all-encompassing (from what I saw on the site- there’s probably a lot more info out there.)

Accurate Parts

I do agree with the test in that I focus a lot on being unique and different from other people. I would also agree that I sometimes feel superior to others, while also feeling envious. I guess more envious of them seeming less complex, and therefore having less to worry about (which probably isn’t actually true, but it is what I convince myself of at times). I also agree with the part about longing to be appreciated for my authentic self. That is a HUGE thing for me.

I don’t feel as though I’m necessarily artistic, as the test mentioned. But I guess in a way, I am, since I love writing and expressing my creativity in ways that wouldn’t really be considered “artsy.” (I.E Interior design, writing, making vision boards, writing in my journal.) Okay, maybe I am a bit artsy. It also states that I’m comfortable with self-expression which is pretty accurate, although sometimes my shyness and desire to please others gets in the way of that. But with people I’m comfortable with, I’m highly expressive.

What I Liked About the Test

I do like how at the end of my description there are recommendations for personal growth. The 16 Personalities is a little bit lacking in those kinds of recommendations. But at the same time, the 16 Personalities helps me acknowledge and understand my weaknesses so that I can accept them and improve them. So, I still like the way the 16 Personalities test approaches weaknesses better. This test did seem to be pretty accurate, but only described about 3 aspects of me, when there’s a whole lot more to me- that the 16 Personalities test seemed to grasp better.

2. How to Fascinate

* You will have to create an account to access your results for this free test.

This is actually a test I hadn’t heard of yet, but it popped up a few times when I searched, “Popular Personality Tests.” It’s supposed to measure how the world sees you. This was something I was definitely interested in learning about myself, since I have NO CLUE how people percieve me. Like, no clue. That’s something I really struggle with. I could be perceived as a super creative person or annoying or shy and I’d have no clue. (Actually, I am pretty sure I’m percieved as shy, since I’ve been told that a lot… but other than that, I have no clue.)

I received “The Catalyst” as my result for this test.


Like I said, I have NO CLUE how others perceive me, but I’m pretty sure these results are WAY off, at least pertaining to how people I’m not comfortable around see me. There’s a small chance that these results might be accurate and that I’m just really hard on myself. But I think the chances are slim. I see myself as shy, reserved, and nervous around people I don’t know well. These results are more accurate around people I do know well, but I guess I didn’t really care to know about how I’m perceived by people who I’m comfortable around. I feel like I have a better idea of how they perceive me.

For a confusing INFJ, this test might not be the best, since we are so different around different people, depending on our comfort levels. The test results did say that this is how I’m perceived AT MY BEST and since I’m at my best when I’m comfortable, I guess it is accurate. Yeah, this is a confusing one when you’re so different around different people. I’m not sure this is as insightful as I hoped. I’m also curious to know how much of these results are based on how I want to be perceived, as opposed to how I actually am perceived.

Accurate Parts

I’m definitely “out-of-the-box” (at least I think I am), creative, and enthusiastic. I don’t fit into the boxes I’m usually told to fit into, I love to create things, and I absolutely love life and all the exciting things it has to offer. Those parts were accurate, based on who I am inside. BUT I’m not sure that people can see those things from the outside. And I definitely don’t feel social or energizing, even on the inside.

What I Liked About the Test

I like the idea of the test, but I don’t think it lived up to the idea. At least, not for me. It may work for some people who are more transparent and authentic no matter what situations they’re in. I yearn to be authentic at all times, but I’m often too uncomfortable to do so.

3. The DISC Assessment

* You’ll have to create an account to take this free test, as well.

The DISC test is supposed to help you improve interpersonal communications, connect with co-workers more effectively, and understand what you need to do in order to be more successful in your interactions with others. I took the free assessment instead of the full one that costs money to take, so my results may not be entirely accurate. But I do feel like it captured at least a small portion of my interpersonal skills.

They wanted me to register to learn more about my personality traits, but I decided to opt out of that and just search, “Supportive, Cautious, and Dominant” on the interwebs.

SUPPORTIVE: People who have both Reserved and People-oriented traits often exhibit supportive and steady behaviors. They usually focus on preserving relationships and on creating or maintaining peace and harmony.

CAUTIOUS: People who have both Reserved and Task-oriented traits often exhibit cautious and careful behaviors. They usually focus on facts, rules, and correctness.

DOMINANT: People who have both Outgoing and Task-oriented traits often exhibit dominant and direct behaviors. They usually focus on results, problem-solving, and the bottom-line.

The one trait I didn’t exhibit at all was the Inspiring trait, which outgoing and people-oriented individuals exhibit. These people usually focus on having fun, interacting with people, and creating excitement.


I wouldn’t say that this test (at least the free version of it) offered me too much information about myself that I didn’t already know. I don’t feel like I had any “epiphany” moments like I had when reading my 16 Personalities results. I’m also left feeling like I don’t know much information, like how “Supportive” I am, compared to how “Cautious” and “Dominant” I am. I guess I’d have to register in order to know that information!

Accurate Parts

Given that it was only 12 questions (technically 24), I feel like this test captured my personality traits pretty well. I definitely focus on creating/maintaining peace and harmony, am task-oriented, and focus on facts. I wouldn’t say that I focus too much on maintaining relationships (I should focus more on that) or on rules. But for the most part, it was pretty accurate, although not very insightful.

What I Liked About the Test

I liked that it was short, but still grasped quite a bit of my personality. I also like the entire idea of knowing how I can connect better with others, although I didn’t register and access any of that information. I wish I had been able to access more without registering like I’ve been able to do with other tests.

4. Test Color

This one reminded me a lot of the Rorschach test, which I’ve always been mildly suspicious about. But I thought it would be fun to give it a try and see if it got my personality right based on… which colors I like/dislike. After taking the test, I’m still not sure what to think.


There wasn’t a whole lot of information about this quiz anywhere on the site, so I’m still not sure if my results were based solely on which colors I liked/disliked or based on other facts, as well. I’m wondering if how quickly I chose the colors and how hypocritical I was in my second test (doing it the opposite way than you did the first time) had any effect on my results. If it was based solely on which colors I like/dislike, I don’t understand how there could be any merit to that. But perhaps I’m wrong! (Someone let me know if favorite colors correlating with personality is a real thing!)

Based on my results, I’d say it got a few things right, but other things were WAY off. I definitely wouldn’t say I’m 48% extrovert (I’m more like 36%, if that). I also wouldn’t say I’m very good at communicating in conflict. I’m actually pretty bad at it. Or, at least, I’m bad at it leading up to the point of conflict. Once I’m actually in the midst of conflict, I communicate well for the most part. But I absolutely hate the feeling of conflict and avoid it at all costs!

Accurate Parts

I agree with the emotional intelligence, organizational abilities, and creativity parts 100%, but I’m still not sold on the quiz because I have NO CLUE how they got those results from me picking my favorite/least favorite colors. And it wasn’t completely accurate. But I did think it was cool that they got some parts spot on.

Also, I had my husband take this test and his results were spot on, besides that the test rated his extraversion too high, just like it did with mine. But everything else was eerily on-target (only eery if it’s based solely on COLORS! Does anyone else think this is weird!?) His favorite colors were red and green and his least favorite colors were pink and purple. If you share similar favorite/least favorite colors to him, let me know if it said that you have great management skills and you’re very insightful/detail oriented!

What I Liked About the Test (Quiz)

It was a short, fun test to take. I enjoyed taking it… and would definitely recommend it if I knew the “why” behind my results and if my results were a little more accurate. I also didn’t feel like it really helped me understand myself better. I felt like I was more testing the test than it was testing/helping me. It didn’t give me any profound information that I can use in the future. But it was a fun little quiz to take!

5. “Who Am I” Quiz

* You don’t need to create a free account for this one, but it is pretty lengthy.

This test was actually pretty fun. It’s formatted less like a Q&A type test and more like a, “Pick the picture you most identify with” test. While taking it, it reminded me a lot of one of those dumb Facebook quizzes. I didn’t know if I was going to get very accurate results because it seemed more like a “fun” test than anything else. But the results I got were actually pretty accurate and thorough!


The last half of the test was very odd and confusing. It was asking me questions about what brand of cell phone and cable I use, where I shop for groceries, etc. I wasn’t sure if my answers were going to affect the results or if they were just thrown in there to get some research studies done. I’m thinking it was the latter. It was a bit annoying to answer so many questions that didn’t seem applicable to my personality.

I also wasn’t always clear about what each picture meant. Some of the pictures could have had several different meanings or were so similar to another option that I wasn’t sure which I should choose.

Although my results were pretty accurate, I feel like they lacked some depth. My personality type is very contradictory and complex, but it didn’t grasp those more complex aspects.

Accurate Parts

I would definitely say my results are pretty accurate. I’m imaginative, creative, comfortable with change, emotionally reactive (at times), thoughtful about my decisions, perfectionistic, a workaholic, not very extroverted at all, and not very agreeable. Although, I would say I’m agreeable a lot of times in order to avoid conflict, which they didn’t seem to grasp. I’m a people pleaser around people I’m not comfortable with (and often times with people I am comfortable with, as well) but I’m stubborn and often wish I could just say, “No,” more than I do.

What I Liked About the Test

For the most part, I really loved the “choosing pictures” aspect of this. It made it a lot more fun to answer the questions… (until they started asking me about my cell phone service and asking where I buy my clothes). I also love how accurate the results were even though the questions were so seemingly so simple.

6. Color Code

I don’t know if anyone else remembers this, but the Color Code test was all the rage a few years back. Back before the 16 Personalities test became more popular. I remember taking this awhile ago and being unsure about my results, since I have a hard time remembering my childhood and all of the questions are based on your childhood. But I’m going to take it again and see if I remember more!


Nope, I do not remember more about my childhood than I used to. I actually think I remember less than I used to. That why this one was a bit hard for me to take. It could almost be considered the same problem I have with not knowing what other people think of me. I just can’t grasp that third person (or younger self) vision of myself very well. I tried my best, but given the results, my best was not very good ha! I got the Blue personality type, which doesn’t sound that much like me.

I’d say that’s mostly my fault since I really didn’t know how to answer these questions. Sometimes it scares me how little I remember from childhood (not in an actual scary- repressed memory way- at least, I hope not.) I also felt like some of the questions were really hard to answer because I either portrayed all 4 answers, a couple of them, or none of them. I think I prefer the slider scale over the “pick which word best describes you” questions.

Accurate Parts

I definitely don’t think my motive is intimacy, but I do like to be understood by others like the test suggests I do. So, there’s that. I am loyal and I do want intimate relationships with others but I wouldn’t say intimacy is a HUGE part of who I am since I do love being alone, as well.

I also don’t feel like I’m that controlling at all.

While I am opinionated and stubborn, I don’t think I ever try to force people to be exactly like me. I may wish they were different, but I don’t try to shape them into who I want them to be or tell them what to do. All in all, I’d say that about 25% of it was spot on, but the rest was off.

What I Like About the Test

Honestly, I didn’t love this test. I don’t like tests where I have to think back to childhood. I know that’s their way of trying to get us to objectively answer questions about ourselves, but it just doesn’t work for me because I just don’t remember how I acted or how I was perceived. But if you can remember your childhood well, this will be a GREAT test for you to take!

What I Learned

Perhaps I’m biased- or maybe I just know a good personality test when I take one- but the 16 Personalities Test will most likely always be my favorite. I loved taking these other tests, but the 16 Personalities just “gets me”- flaws, strengths, complexity, and all. I hope you enjoyed reading about my results and that you took the time to take them, as well! I can’t wait to see what results all of you get! Feel free to share this post on Pinterest or wherever you think a fellow INFJ could see it!